Blessings of Marriage

A passage from The Holy Quran

‘O humankind! Reverence your Guardian-Lord, Who created you from a single person, created, of like nature, his mate, and from them twain scattered (like seeds) countless men & women’

The Holy Quran - Surah 4 Verse 1

Allah Subhaanahu wa ta’ala has a created a longing in our hearts. Men have a longing for women and women have a longing for men. It is a desire we all have within us. Feeling that we need that someone in our lives and having that desire is not something from Satan and is not a sin. It is something that was created by Allah Subhaanahu wa ta’ala and the knowledge of which was given to Adam (Peace be upon him). So it’s our nature. We may feel an emptiness in our lives that can often only be filled with the union of men and women, according to the commands of Allah Subhaanahu wa ta’ala. That union being Marriage.

‘And all things We have created by pairs, that happily ye may reflect.’

The Holy Quran - Surah 51 Verse 49

There will come a time in our lives when we will all begin to think about marriage and finding the ‘one’ and the sooner we get the ball rolling the better as it’s not easy and it won’t happen over night!!

Being young and keeping away from the opposite sex is not easy in this day in age. It’s very easy for us to pass a glance, develop feelings for someone and enter into a haraam relationship.

In the hadith it is narrated that the prophet Muhammed (peace & blessings be upon him) said: (to the nearest effect)

'O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps you lower your gaze and guard your modesty, and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes your sexual power."

(Al-Bukhari)

Our beloved prophet (peace & blessings be upon him) has also advised us to marry as soon as we can. It saves us from many sins and brings about so many blessings in our lives.

Marriage is one of the greatest blessings in Islam. It is the Sunnah of our prophet (peace & blessings be upon him).

In the hadith it is narrated that the prophet Muhammed (peace & blessings be upon him) said: (to the nearest effect)

‘Marriage is my Sunnah. He who shuns my Sunnah is not of me.’

(Muslim)

So those of you thinking of living a bachelors’ life forever, think again!!

In the hadith it is narrated that the prophet Muhammed (peace & blessings be upon him) said: (to the nearest effect)

'When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half'

(Muslim)

Our perfect role model has told us that getting married completes half of our faith so we can see the importance it plays within Islam. It continues to mention however that, we need to fear Allah regarding the other half, meaning we shouldn’t think that once we get married we can relax! No! We need to continue in bettering our actions, strengthening our imaan (faith) and aiming to follow all of the commands of Allah Subhaanahu wa ta’ala. This is why searching for the right life partner is important and can be very difficult.

In the hadith it is narrated that the prophet Muhammed (peace & blessings be upon him) said: (to the nearest effect)

"A man marries a woman for four reasons: for her property, for her status, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character). So marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper".

(Bukhari)

What qualities do we find most important?? How fit they are? How much money they have? What car they drive? Whether they have a degree?

It is so important to find a marriage partner who has Imaan. Someone we can learn with, maybe teach or be taught, help each other to better ourselves.

Guys need to think that their wives will also be the mothers of their children, and the first school the child will go to is the mothers laps, the mothers arms…

Ladies need to think that their husbands will be the fathers of their children, and in most cases they will be a role model and also the ones perhaps providing the most discipline…

So what would we want our children to learn? How would we want our children to be brought up? What kind of views and beliefs do we want our children to have?

Generation after generation religion, imaan, belief is being diluted, and the reason for that is because people are not bringing up their children islamicly; not teaching them anything about their faith; not teaching them the beauty of Islam; not teaching them the commands of Allah Subhaanahu wa ta’ala; not teaching them the life of our prophets (peace be upon them all); not teaching them anything about who they really are, that being MUSLIMS!!


Think carefully when choosing a life partner…

In the hadith it is narrated that the prophet Muhammed (peace & blessings be upon him) said: (to the nearest effect)

‘A Muslim man can acquire no benefit after Islam greater than a Muslim wife who makes him happy when he looks at her, listens to him when he asks something of her, and protects him when he is away from her in herself and in his property.'

(Nasa’i)

Is that not true guys? If we had all this in our wives how happy would we be? But would we get that if all we were interested in was their physical appearance?

In the hadith it is narrated that the prophet Muhammed (peace & blessings be upon him) said: (to the nearest effect)

`The most perfect believer in faith is the one whose character is finest and who is kindest to his wife.'

(At-Tirmidhi)

Ladies imagine your hubby with impeccable character and with an abundance of kindness, how great would that be? But would you get that if all you were interested in was his bank balance.

The foundations of marriage needs to be Islam. People often forget when they have their nikah (marriage ceremony) that it is a contract in the name of Islam, in the name of Allah Subhaanahu wa ta’ala, and then after that day they continue to live their lives un-Islamicly! What’s that about?!

At the time of the nikah, Allah Subhaanahu wa ta'ala sends down many angels to congratulate and send blessings to the couple. Now at this time instead of people acknowleding the blessings around them and the company of angels, people are more concerned with music, dancing and partying and spending thousands of pounds! The prophet (peace & blessings be upon him) has mentioned that the simpler the wedding, the more barrakah (blessings) in the marriage.

If we want to have successful happy marriages, the foundations have to be Islam. Islam teaches love, honour and respect within the marriage and serving one another is a form of Ibaadah, a form of worship. You are rewarded for your kindness to your partners; you are rewarded for smiling at your partners! If our partners and ourselves followed Islam properly and knew its teachings and its rewards we would do all these things right?


‘And among His Signs is this, that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect’

The Holy Quran - Surah 30 Verse 21


Subhaan-Allah! Glory be to Allah Subhaanahu wa ta’ala. The beautiful words of The Holy Quran.

This is Islam, this is the guidance we have been given and if we and our life partners followed this guidance imagine what amazing futures we could have.



Something we can do to ask Allah Subhaanahu wa ta’ala to grant us with good spouses and children is to read the following passage from The Holy Quran 3 times after every fardh (obligatory) prayer:



'And those who pray: ‘Our Lord grant onto us spouses and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes and give us the grace to lead the righteous'

The Holy Quran - Surah 25 Verse 73




If we haven’t already lets start to think about MARRIAGE as soon as we can and try our best to do so in a HALAL (permissible) manner. Lets think about our FUTURES and the kind of LIFESTYLE we want to live. How much will ISLAM have to play in our lives? How much of our TIME will we spend LEARNING about ISLAM? How much of our TIME will we spend TEACHING our PARTNERS or CHILDREN about Islam? How much of our TIME will we spend RECITING The HOLY QURAN? How much of our TIME will we spend WORSHIPING ALLAH Subhaanahu wa ta’ala? If we adopt these acts of worship into our lives NOW it will make it so much EASIER for our FUTURE and will be very BENEFICIAL not only for OURSELVES but also our CHILDREN.



When searching for a life partner, someone for marriage, we need to ask ourselves the following questions:

· Is this person good for MY LIFE?

· Is this person good for MY RELIGION?

· Is this person good for MY AKHIRA? (End, Judgement Day)

We need to find the ‘ONE’ with whom we can lead each other to JANNAH.